COMMUNICATION TIPS FOR PARENTS

sewaktu jalan-jalan melawat laman web American Psychological Association saya terbaca satu artikel. Tajuknya "comm. Tips For Parents". artikel ni saya 'copy paste' sebagai bahan rujukan saya.....walaupun anak-anak sendiri masih kecil, tetapi satu masa nanti mereka juga akan menjadi remaja. walaupun ada masanya terasa penat bukan kepalang melayan mereka bermain, mengelap makanan yang tumpah diserata rumah itu adalah tidaklah terlalu mencabar jika dibandingkan beberapa tahun akan datang yang mana apabila mereka menyingkap usia remaja yang mana keperluan PSIKOLOGI mereka semakin meningkat....pada peringkat ini pengaruh ibu bapa semakin menurun manakala pengaruh rakan sebaya pula yang semakin meningkat....Di sinila h pentingnya peranan komunikasi yang bersesuaian di gunakan bagi menyesuaikan perbezaan persepsi antara dua dunia...dunia remaja dan dunia orang tuanya......artikel yang ditulis oleh APA ini walaupun ringkas tapi adalah amat beguna sebagai panduan ibubapa/kaunselor/guru dalam berkomunikasi dengan mereka....

Communication tips for parents

Be available for your children
Notice times when your kids are most likely to talk--for example, at bedtime, before dinner, in the car--and be available.
Start the conversation; it lets your kids know you care about what's happening in their lives.
Find time each week for a one-on-one activity with each child, and avoid scheduling other activities during that time.
Learn about your children's interests--for example, favorite music and activities--and show interest in them.
Initiate conversations by sharing what you have been thinking about rather than beginning a conversation with a question.

Let your kids know you're listening
When your children are talking about concerns, stop whatever you are doing and listen.
Express interest in what they are saying without being intrusive.
Listen to their point of view, even if it's difficult to hear.
Let them complete their point before you respond.
Repeat what you heard them say to ensure that you understand them correctly.

Respond in a way your children will hear
Soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry or defensive.
Express your opinion without putting down theirs; acknowledge that it's okay to disagree.
Resist arguing about who is right. Instead say, "I know you disagree with me, but this is what I think."
Focus on your child's feelings rather than your own during your conversation.

Remember:
Ask your children what they may want or need from you in a conversation, such as advice, simply listening, help in dealing with feelings, or help solving a problem.
Kids learn by imitating. Most often, they will follow your lead in how they deal with anger, solve problems, and work through difficult feelings.
Talk to your children--don't lecture, criticize, threaten, or say hurtful things.
Kids learn from their own choices. As long as the consequences are not dangerous, don't feel you have to step in.
Realize your children may test you by telling you a small part of what is bothering them. Listen carefully to what they say, encourage them to talk, and they may share the rest of the story.

Parenting is hard work
Listening and talking is the key to a healthy connection between you and your children. But parenting is hard work and maintaining a good connection with teens can be challenging, especially since parents are dealing with many other pressures. If you are having problems over an extended period of time, you might want to consider consulting with a mental health professional to find out how they can help.

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